sluttiness

Part of sluttiness is the total opposite of selfishness. It is being somewhere and being automatically comfortable. And noticing who is new and not comfortable and making them feel welcome and included and wanted and introducing them around and playing or talking with them in a way that shows them off so that everyone else will also like them. Sluttiness can be about really liking people. the ship's whores, the temple prostitues, the escort service, the hostess of the mostest. I meant it when i said in my manifesto that sluts have a social function and bring groups of people to know each other that otherwise might not.

I can see that this is valuable and good but that like i was just saying about extroversion and xenophila: the attraction to what is new ideally wouldn't mean that our hypothetical temple prostitute party hostess would neglect the fabulous people who have already been welcomed to the party and she would not forget to refill their drinks and bring them delectable slices of cake and bestow dazzling smiles upon them.

Comments

[Jo]

Speaking as an introvert, however, I find people who are especially extroverted extremely threatening on a personal level. Knowing that they might not respect my need for vast tracts of space without constantly asking me for more interaction.

Luckily you tend to go down the middle, not the scary sort of extrovert.

[leblanc]

i make it a point to find the person/people in the party who are standing alone by the wall and going up to flirt with them at least for a short while, and drag them around to talk to other people. sometimes innocently; sometimes not.

you are absolutely right - it makes a huge difference in the room when everyone feels engaged. and if you're the slut who makes it happen - more power to you.