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Alan Bostick

Ummm... Is Nukie's home a safe place for him? Is calling CPS an appropriate option?

Even if it isn't, having a neighbor mom who is a model of kindness and decency and who shows by example that Things Don't Have to Be This Way is incredibly valuable. Please keep on doing it.

badgerbag

No... it is not a cps thing... his mom and big sister are awesome... they're just poor, dude.

The violence stuff might be from the neighbor situation or maybe a warning that you must behave in school or they wallop you.

Lea

But why is he locked out? Why can't he go inside before his mom gets home? That makes me so sad!

Ms. Jane

He's sleeping in the utility shed. That's not okay.

badgerbag

Well frankly the whole "house" is shed-like so there is not much between the sleeping situations and that way there is a bit more privacy. He clearly gets plenty of sleep and food and love and does very well.

It is interesting however that the gate between the tiny back "house" ie garage/shed, and the front house and yard, has now been nailed over with boards, cutting off communication between the houses, and I'm sure there's a story there.

What would really appall many people is the yard filled with scrap lumber studded with rusty nails, bits of metal, beer cans, broken glass, and a 10 foot wide fire pit. I know people who would utterly freak at the thought of letting a child near it and yet, if you grow up there then you learn immediately not to fuck with giant piles of naily scrap lumber and to keep your shoes on...

Hygenic childproofed environments are overrated.

N. has friends in every house up and down the block on both sides - everyone knows him - the neighbors all look out for him.

Jo

I still think it's not safe for him.

Heather

Poverty certainly causes some real, permanent issues for children. It's hard when neglectful environments are the result of poverty- not lack of love- but he is still being neglected. I don't know what the answer is exactly but I'm raising my adopted daughter and she will probably always suffer because of choices made in her childhood. I hear what you're saying about neighbors watching out and Nukie being a good 'coper' but I've done a ton of research on these issues to figure out how to best deal with my kiddo. I also know too many other adoptive families that have kids with issues related poverty and neglect.

It's hard isn't it when you don't want to cause a child more problems by making a call? But I wish that someone would have valued my kiddo that much.

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