Hamilton (1988) makes the following observation: "People with narcissistic disorders are often talented, charming, and successful. Yet their poor integration of the grandiose and devalued aspects of themselves bring about preoccupation with extravagant success fantasies and expletive behavior accompanied by underlying feelings of meaninglessness and emptiness." But isn't healthy narcissism also likely to breed extravagant success fantasies? What is "unhealthy" about wanting a lot? And why shouldn't just good reality-testing and a keen intelligence provoke feelings of meaninglessness and emptiness?Go, Maisel! Good reality-testing, indeed. I have often tried to say that last sentence quoted above, and failed to get the point across. (because when I say it, it sounds more like I'm waving my pom-poms for nihilism.)
"High self-esteem is no sweet, light affair: it necessarily casts a shadow on the world, because mattering is a demanding, confrontational state of being."